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Are You Talking When You Write?

By: Marilyn L. Davis


Voice: a Unique Quality


“I often get asked the question, ‘If you had to compare your writing to an author, who would it be?’ My answer is always the same; the author I compare myself to is me. Every writer has a unique style relevant to only themselves. I am nothing like other authors; some aspects of my writing may have similarities to another, but in the end, each and every one of us is different.” ― Ashley Tia Long


Reflective Perspective


Ashley Tia Long’s quote epitomizes an individual secure in her voice. Starting her novel at age 8 and finally finishing it when she was a young adult demonstrate the care with which many authors hone their voice.

It is a testament to voice as a quality within each writer that her editor did not change many of the passages that she originally wrote at age eight.

She did expand and phrase the concepts transforming them into writing as an adult. She is also a reflective author utilizing many of the qualities that I find interesting such as rhetorical questions, alternative solutions, and the inclusion of thoughts and feelings, prompting the reader to think.

So, what is becoming a natural way for me to write? Writing is now a reflection of the way I offer guidance and direction to my recovery clients.


When We Understand our Readers, Our Voice Comes Naturally


As a substance abuse counselor, I spent years learning reflective listening. It is different from active listening in that we do not merely paraphrase a client’s statement but reword it and add to it to convey our understanding and move the dialogue forward.

I can just as easily substitute client for reader to accomplish my writing goals similar to my counseling goals. 

In the same reflective style that I use in counseling, I am learning to write in a similar voice – I read the words aloud and listen to them asking:

  1. Are there subtle and unstated thoughts and emotions under the information?
  2. Are those thoughts or emotions important to the piece?
  3. Will the readers understand the choice of language?
  4. Do I need to elaborate and add links to the concept?
  5. Are there nuances in the choice of words that might need clarification?


Why I Chose Reflective Writing: The Four R’s


Reflective writing allows me to merge Reporting, Relating, Reasoning, and Reconstructing into each post. When I incorporate the four R’s, I have the freedom to write more than just the facts.

I write much like I have I talk when I’m having conversations with people. Reflective writing creates an opportunity for dialogue with readers. They can read the thoughts, emotions, and opinions through my distinctive voice, the language, tone, movement through the piece, and phrasing that are distinctly mine. If any of these words prompt comments, then the connection with that reader is established. These exchanges work like conversations do at the beginning of friendships.

“Your writing voice is the deepest possible reflection of who you are. The job of your voice is not to seduce or flatter or make well-shaped sentences. In your voice, your readers should be able to hear the contents of your mind, your heart, your soul.” ~Meg Rosoff, 

So, how do you use words to let your readers hear the contents of your mind, heart, and soul? Write in your conversational style.


Find Your Conversational Style and Translate It to a Post


How do you find your voice and incorporate it into your writing? Think about how you talk with people – what is your conversational style? My conversations tend to be reflective – I ask questions to gain insight into the person or the topic. Therefore, questions often show up in my writing. I use them to:

  1. Develop dialogue and a relationship with my reader
  2. Create an opportunity for me to learn when readers answer my questions
  3. Elicit responses with comments, feedback, or email
  4. Prompt my readers to think of an authentic answer for them
  5. Write a rhetorical question for an alternative perspective


Target Readers with Your Voice


What voice is appropriate for your readers? On my other blog, From Addict 2 Advocate, I’m educating people about addiction and recovery. I recently celebrated 32 years in recovery and ran a women’s recovery home for more than 20 years. Yes, I know something about recovery; however, I have to be careful that I’m not writing slang-laden blogs or coming across as a know-it-all. Written in this voice, it might just reinforce the badass, hood, druggie culture that some readers fear and loathe or someone who forgot what early recovery was like.

There are times that I might use those terms when conducting a group if those participating in the group would relate better to that jargon. I also need to establish more than street creds, and giving my credentials adds authenticity to what I’m saying.

Knowing our audiences – whether reader or group participant is critical. Remember that our well-defined, recognizable voice is an integral part of the reason that people read our articles as opposed to someone else writing about the same subject.


Be Known as the Voice of…


This identifiable choice of language, phrasing, and tone means that someone will probably start saying:

  • “I know that writing.”
  • “That’s a writing style I like.”
  • “I feel a connection to that writing.”
  • “I’m going to read more by this writer.”

Those types of comments mean that your readers do not compare you to someone else, and in the world of words, that is often a good thing.




Take 20 minutes and write down your target readers. Then break your readers up by the categories in which you write. Once you have your target readers by categories, reflect on the language, phrasing, tone, and movement that are likely to attract readers and yet be authentic for you.

For myself, I will continue writing reflectively and be honing my voice; this makes sense to me as a person and as a writer.

My combination of language, phrasing, tone, and mood make it my work. I hope someday that someone reads one of my articles and says, “Marilyn, I knew you wrote that; it is you.”


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