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Voice: Have You Found Yours? Is Mine There, Too?

By: Marilyn L. Davis


“I find that I trust my own writing most, and others seem to trust it most, too, when I sound most like a person from Indianapolis, which is what I am.” Kurt Vonnegut


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What is Voice?


Voice is a distinct way we write. When we first start writing, our voice doesn’t come naturally to most of us for several reasons. Some of us are afraid that our writing isn’t good enough, others are trying too hard to imitate their favorite author, and others can’t write a sentence without editing, revising, and losing their one-of-a-kind perspective on the topic.

In the beginning, we labor over the words and then quickly check the Thesaurus for an even better word, or we’re distracted by spelling and punctuation prompts, or we’re afraid our topic is already saturated, and we have nothing new to offer. By that time, most of us have forgotten our topic.


Looking for the Voice


So how does someone begin to find a personal voice? They practice writing in what I refer to as the 4 Voices:

  • Newbie Writer
  • Pretentious Writer 
  • Confident Writer
  • Comfortable Writer

I know these because I’ve been all four. And I would imagine if you’re honest, you have been one or more of them, too.


The Newbie Writer’s Voice


I can remember waking up and having an idea, maybe just three or four words that sparked an interest. Then I’d spend umpteen hours researching the topic.

When I was finally saturated with facts, opinions, and other people’s perception of the topic, I’d sit down and try to write about the subject in my words. Most times, it came across as stilted, long-winded, cumbersome, and false.

It wasn’t me. But it did get me in the habit of writing.


The Pretentious Writer’s Voice


Taking that same idea, I’d decide that a particular word just wasn’t impressive enough, and I’d change it. Or, I’d write a passive sentence and then labor over finding a way to make it robust and in the present tense, sometimes changing the meaning or context of the passage.

Sometimes I’d write extremely long paragraphs, full of phrases and rambling prose that only inched towards the point, complete with enough adjective and adverb descriptors to make even me wonder when we would get to the conclusion.

But the most pretentious thing I did was try to sound like famous authors.


The Confident Writer’s Voice


I’ve written a 400,000-word recovery curriculum and noticed that I didn’t think about what I was writing; it was as if the words simply went from the brain to fingers through some unknown connection.

I was visiting my sister and updating the images and phrasing on some sections while she was on the phone. When she finished her conversation, she commented that it didn’t appear that I was struggling with any portion of the content.

I stopped and thought about it and realized that because the subjects of addiction and recovery were so familiar to me, I didn’t have to agonize over each word, they flowed onto the page without the use of a Thesaurus.

It was that familiarity with the topic that allowed me to find my unique voice for the curriculum.

Fast forward to writing at Two Drops of Ink, where initially, I had zero confidence in my ability to write about writing. I didn’t have the same level of assurance that I could string together sentences and help people write better as I did on the subject of recovery.

But I kept writing. I studied the recommended books on writing, I edited others, and in doing this, saw a lot of common mistakes, and tried not to make them in my writing, and I learned to revise.  


The Comfortable Writer’s Voice


Going through all the above stages, I found that “writing about writing” got easier. It’s that level of comfort that allows us to write words in our voice, not worrying that we don’t sound as knowledgeable as the next writer on any topic because knowledge is not enough. 

If it were solely about expertise, no one would bother to have a blog about writing; we could quickly write a post with a list of the great books on the subject and be done.

So, if it’s not just knowledge, then what else is it? We’re back to voice; that unique way in which you view your subject and translate that into words for an audience. 

Voice is your understanding of the how, when, why, who and where that conveys a unique point of view or produces a different sounding approach. Click To Tweet


Claiming Your Voice


It’s in the subtle use of words and phrases that mark a post as mine, just as your choice of words and phrases will make people recognize your writing.

For instance, I knew that I didn’t want to be just an educator in my recovery curriculum. I wanted people to understand that I had been where they were, had made changes, and had created a better life.I needed to be serious, but encouraging; however, I did not want to be preachy or pedantic about what people needed to do to accomplish change. 

Finding that mid-ground between expert by education and expert by experience was part of the way I found my voice. Click To Tweet

I wanted the directions on recovery to express hope and give people working plans on how to recover and demonstrate the possibilities and opportunities for life in recovery versus life in addiction. I hoped that my writing helped them find their strengths and talents and tap into their potential to be a better person.

Clearly, with these objectives in mind, my messages and directions needed to be interesting, informative, and correct. They also needed to be short, snappy, and concise.

Just as importantly, I wanted to tell the truth about the damage I had inflicted on people in my use and how I overcame the guilt by changing and making amends. And it’s in those candid moments that the images in our heads create a vision for the reader.

In the end, our most authentic voice comes through when we are honest.


Finding the Words and Voice


How you develop your voice is as simple and as hard as sitting down and writing the words that come naturally to you. Free-writing is a good beginning, where you don’t worry about punctuation, grammar, or syntax and get the words on paper.

Begin with a topic you are passionate about and just write. When you are familiar with the subject, the thoughts, feelings, and opinions are already established in your head, and it’s a simple task to get them to paper.

Don’t worry about misspelled words – ignore them, or, better yet, turn off any notices. If you must stop to collect your thoughts, don’t go back and start editing or revising. Don’t check your facts at this point. Don’t look for supporting links.

Get as many words on paper as you can about the given topic, although you can time yourself and only write for 10 to 30 minutes.

The next part of finding your voice is to hear it read aloud.

  • Are you stumbling? 
  • Are there words in the text that you don’t usually use? 
  • Does it read honest? 
  • Did you convey your attitude about the topic? 
  • Does it sound like you and reflect the way you would give this as a “talk”?

It’s when we are unfamiliar with a topic or unsure about our writing that we labor. The beauty of niche writing or creating your blog is that you decide the topics, issues, causes, or problems you’re going to include. 

With that kind of freedom, there’s no reason that you can’t find your distinctive voice.

And mine, well, I think I’ve found it, and maybe, just maybe, that’s why that Vonnegut quote speaks to me. After all, I’m from Indianapolis, too.



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  1. I thoroughly enjoy reading your words. You are a good mentor. Being new at this blogging idea, I need to find my voice, and I believe this will help.

  2. Hum, I’m in the pretentious zone. The words flow onto paper but I struggle with editing. Changing, rewriting, theosurous and agonising over it all. Then wondering if it even sounds like me anymore. Time to relax a little.

    • Hi, Lorraine. Thank you for reading and commenting.

      The downfall for some writers is the editing. Certainly, grammar, syntax and other problems have to be edited, but to change your voice, in my opinion, shouldn’t be part of that process. The other reality is that some authors have been able to get away with what we might consider poor grammar because their voice and choice of words made us overlook the grammatical errors.

      You’re right, it’s time to relax and find your voice, regardless of whether it sounds profound or not. I certainly had to when I decided I wanted to be authentic and be me.

    • Lorraine,
      I think we can all “over think” any piece of writing. Depending on the genre, I would be careful to remain true to your natural voice. The only times I use a thesaurus are when I write an academic essay, or when I find myself using the same expression over and again (which is usually indicative of me needing to rest my brain a bit). If you’re a fiction writer, go with your gut, your natural voice, and then don’t over think your editing. Scott

      • Thank you, I came to the same realisation after reading back the first chapter. I’d polished myself out of the writing. I will listen to my gut & trust myself. Your advice is well timed.

        • If I can ever help in any way, please feel free to email me (swbiddulph@gmail.com). I think any writer that has worked with me can attest to the fact that as an editor, “I dream the writer’s dream.” I love to help writers articulate their creative voice better; it’s the foundational mission statement of this blog. I’m always available to anyone that reaches out. Good luck and happy writing.

  3. Hi, Marilyn! My approach is similar to yours. I write all thought and ideas down before I try to string it all together. If anyone ever read my paper copy, they would think I was three sheets to the wind. I even wonder how it will work out, but it does. It is a process. The excitement for me is to see where it will go. When I read the finished product, and I think to myself, how did I get that story from the mess off that paper?I’m still seeking my voice. I tend to write about something I know or imagine. My real world conversation with people is much like how I write on paper. I do spend a lot of time searching for the right word. I also challenge myself to see if I can get less red marks from Scott. My goal is to get better with every piece I write.

    • Hi, John. I hope you’re reviewing the darling file of all those ideas. I can imagine having a conversation with you from your writing so I’m not surprised that your writing is an extension of how you speak. It always reads authentic and that’s what most of us are striving for in our writing. As always, thanks for taking the time to read and comment. I appreciate both, John.

        • Hi, John. I just picture you with snippets of posts either scattered about or organized. Those are the darlings, the 2 to 3 paragraphs that we like but aren’t a full post. Then we get distracted or discouraged and leave them. That was part of my self-defeating pattern as well. Now, I review them weekly for both blogs and finish the thoughts. Makes me feel productive instead of condemning myself for not getting a post up.

          When’s your next submission? She smiles.

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