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Writer’s Burnout: Causes and Cures

By: Marilyn L. Davis

 

 

 

“Burnout can be defined as a loss of enthusiasm, energy, idealism, perspective, and purpose; it has been described as trying to run a marathon at full speed.”― Kathleen Kendall-Tackett Ph.D.

 

 

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Stress or Burnout?

 

We may be feeling garden-variety stress or burnout. 

Writing in The New York Times, Alina Tugend said, “Although most of us tend to use those phrases interchangeably, researchers say stress is to burnout as feeling a little blue is to clinical depression — a much more serious and long-term problem that doesn’t get the attention it should but can affect all aspects of our lives and workplace.”

Many writers experience burnout because they haven’t learned to pace themselves. 

 

Controlling the Pace

 

How can we learn to pace ourselves and still get things done? I’m a writer and editor-in-chief at FromAddict2Advocate and Two Drops of Ink. I’m a recovery coach and a Certified Addiction Recovery Empowerment Specialist conducting recovery support groups at a women’s recovery home. I also facilitate a group for nurses with substance abuse disorder. Each of these jobs takes time, energy, and effort, and if I’m not careful, I try and do all of them 110% and wonder why I’m running on empty. 

Yes, each job is essential, but going above and beyond on each is unnecessary and contributes to stress and burnout, and it’s my responsibility to pace myself, not someone else.  

 

I’ve Known Burnout Before

 

I opened and ran a successful award-winning women’s recovery home in 1990 but decided to close it in 2011. Underlying this decision was burnout after 21 years. 

Working with up to 17 women in various stages of recovery, their families, and children, reporting to Accountability Courts, and conducting group sessions three times per week, I started feeling more burdened than buoyant from the daily grind.

My decision to close the house felt freeing, but then I got called out of retirement and did my usual – full steam ahead. I have always been a hard worker and view each challenge accordingly.

 

Even When We Love What We’re Doing, We Risk Burnout

 

Don’t get me wrong; I love creating posts for both blogs. It’s a privilege to have someone write and tell me that my post on FromAddict2Advocate helped them turn their lives around. 

Editing is not a chore for me; I appreciate the efforts of all the writers at Two Drops of Ink, and hopefully, I do their words justice when I edit or find images for their submissions. 

But, 100% effort is all I should allocate to each. 

 

Burnout – Again

 

I published two books this year, Finding North: A Journey from Addict to Advocate and Memories into Memoir: The Mindsets and Mechanics Workbook. While I’m proud of this, writing, editing, revising, rewriting after my editor reviewed them, and formatting didn’t need to extend until 2 AM.

After they were published, I ran out of gas. Simple tasks seemed like too much some days. A part of my brain was screaming at me to:  

  1. Get up from the keyboard and fix the shelf that fell in the laundry room.
  2. Make the grocery list – I’m not just out of cat food.
  3. Write a post for Two Drops of Ink and From Addict 2 Advocate
  4. Edit the submission about addiction from another writer.
  5. Find the right images for a Two Drops of Ink submission. 

So, there’s my confession about how I overworked myself into burnout, but it may not be similar to yours. However, you might be experiencing burnout if you are:

 

1. Exhaustion

 

Exhaustion isn’t just physical; it can be emotional and mental as well. Yes, you got some sleep last night, so you should be able to bounce out of bed and get on with your day. Dragging yourself out of bed, you make the coffee and find that you can’t get enough coffee into your system to muster the energy to do, think, or feel anything but tired.

You view your computer with contempt and just want to go back to sleep to forget how much you think you have to do. Even when you want to pull up the covers and hide, you can’t bring yourself to do that, so you head for the chair with your 3-column long to-do lists.

Next, you just get overwhelmed by all of it and realize you don’t have the energy to do any of the tasks today because that low-grade energy often translates into a lack of motivation, and then you can start beating yourself up.

 

2. Less Motivated

 

Having a to-do list does not engender a desire to complete the tasks. Even looking at that, I realize how harsh that reads, but that’s the reality.

When we don’t have the motivation to finish the tasks, that long list can generate resentment. And unfortunately, for a writer, that resentment often gets turned inward. 

We feel guilty about not getting out tasks done, berate ourselves for not writing, and wish there was someone else to do those things for us. 

Frustrated with ourselves doesn’t translate into motivation, inspiration, or a post. 

 

3. Suffering from The Low-Grade Pissies

 

No, you’re not going to find Low-Grade Pissies in the DSM under depression or learn to deal with it in an Anger Management Course. The Low-Grade Pissies merely describe how irritated, impatient, annoyed, and aggravated we can get. Most of the time, with the Low-Grade Pissies, it’s hard to isolate all of the variables and find a solution so we can get back on track with our responsibilities.

It’s that pervasive blah, referred to as restless, irritable, and discontent in recovery circles, and it happens to writers suffering from burnout, too.

 

It’s More Than Writing – It’s Social Media Pressure, Too

 

There is so much focus on numbers, views, reach, and retweets for every post we write. And we can’t just write; we have the added responsibility of sharing every post on more social media sites than most of us can reasonably follow, and then feel bad if we’re sharing something that doesn’t produce viral posts.

We’re already tired and have limited energy, and we take what little we have and use up half of it, agonizing over the views we’ll generate from all this sharing before we’ve even edited the post.

  • We question why we’re writing.
  • Does anyone care?
  • Who reads these posts?
  • Does it help anyone in the long run?
  • Is this even good enough to publish?

“Wh~Wh~Whaaaa.” 

And just as I realize that I sound like a crying baby or a lousy trombone, I get even more frustrated at my burnout and just want relief.

Maybe you want some relief from burnout, too, so here are some suggestions that I use, and as soon as this is formatted and published, I’ll get to them.

 

1.Get Another Hat 

 

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I know that sounds crazy. It’s wearing all the hats and being responsible that’s generated a lot of feelings. But bear with me; it’s a specific hat – the one you wear when you’re advising someone else.

What would you tell a friend who described their burnout, Low-Grade Pissies, and inability to put their writing into focus?

You’d probably tell them to stop being so hard on themselves. 

I can’t tell you that enough, and yet, I struggle with permitting myself to have a day off. 

  1. How can I let the calls go to voice mail? 
  2. Is it possible to ignore the emails for a day? 
  3. Will Facebook shut down again if I don’t post something? 
  4. What if someone checks the blogs looking for information, and it’s sitting on my computer unedited? 

I’m sure I’m not the only one, but if I don’t practice any self-care, I can’t overcome the irritation. 

So, for me:

  1. I’ll call my son-in-law and let him figure out why the anchors in the wall didn’t work.
  2. I’ll finish this and make the grocery list.
  3. I can drive by the townhouse on the way to the store, and that only takes one trip.
  4. I’ll put the draft on hold until I return from the store and put up the groceries.
  5. I’ll get a new tea and make it seem like a treat whileedit out the extraneous passages.

What can you do to practice some self-care?

 

2. Look for Any Accomplishments  

 

Writers live and work in solitude. We spend way too much time in our heads. And for many of us, our thoughts end up being critical. It’s the negativity that also contributes to burnout.

We magnify our lack of productivity or progress in one area of our lives and globally label ourselves as lazy, worthless, or unimportant. We minimize any accomplishments. Remember that fallen shelf? 

Well, I got up to get coffee while writing this, though I’d just called my son-in-law and left a message, and he answered. He’s on his way over now. Whew. I could feel some of the tension leave my shoulders and neck, but if I only tell myself, well, one-down-and-four-to-go, I don’t think I’ve accomplished anything when I have.

How often do you negate the improvements because you still focus on all that’s left to do?

 

3. Get Away, Get Involved, and Get Inspired

 

I don’t know too many writers that have the luxury or availability to write at Walden’s Pond. But quoting Henry David Thoreau: “I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.”

Thoreau was not buried deep in a wilderness, skinning creatures to survive, either. His cabin was about a mile from town, and he had frequent visitors. But what he did in solitude was reflect on nature. He wrote about the seasons and the changes during each.

Today, we have portable writing devices, and sitting in the backyard, on a porch or balcony, front stoop, or going to a nearby park, will get you away from the desk and the imaginary ball and chain that binds you to it.

Even if you don’t have a laptop, there’s always the trusty pen and paper approach, and who knows, you may experience a Thoreau moment that you can record for posterity.

For many people, fresh air, birds, sunshine, and nature noises can provide relief, a renewed passion for life experiences, or calmness that helps them focus on what is essential in their life.

 

4. Reach Out and Vent

 

While writing this, one of the women from the recovery house called. I recognized the number calling and could have let it go to voicemail. However, I also knew that no one should be calling me from that number during the day. All the women have jobs, so I knew I’d be wondering what was wrong if I didn’t answer that call, so I answered the phone on my day off.

That resident knew it was my day off and prefaced her conversation with, “I know it’s your day off, Ms. Marilyn, but I just need to bitch.” She’d been sent home from work for a poor attitude and telling her boss, “I hate my job.”

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Value Vicarious Lessons

 

Sometimes the Universe gives us a lesson when we least expect it. 

We talked for a few minutes, and I gave her an assignment: to take the five primary feelings – mad, sad, glad, bad (envious, jealous, guilty), and scared, and then list everything she had that feeling about on paper.

We talked about how she was mad that she was in a low-paying job, couldn’t complete her step work on Wednesday night because of a mandatory house meeting, and was angry that she was away from her family. She’ll finish up the rest, and we’ll process it tomorrow.

But it made me realize I needed to take my advice to heart and apply it to myself. 

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Using The Universes’ Advice

 

Her call helped me process my negativity and burnout. I called a friend and bitched. Dialling, I remembered Richard Bach saying, “We teach best what we most need to learn.” 

What can you do? Call and ask a friend if you can, vent. Tell them you need a shoulder to cry on or sounding board and advice on your life’s stresses. 

Or you can try the Five Feeling exercises, and here’s a novel approach for writers – don’t edit. Don’t decide that something is silly, so you don’t put it down. Put it down anyway. The point of this exercise is to get the feelings out of you and onto paper.

Moving those negative feelings from inside of you onto paper works.

And when you get to glad, well, you may just discover your gratitude and joys, which might translate into wanting to write again.

 

Let Me Know What Works for You

 

I value comments that help me grow as a writer and a person, so if you have favorite ways of overcoming stress and burnout, let me know.

I’ll add your suggestions to my arsenal, and next time, when the phone rings or a shelf falls, I’ll be prepared.

Thank you.

 

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15 comments

  1. Marilyn
    Great post. I admit I’m struggling right now because I too have a history of burnout. One such burnout was 20 years ago, the first time I gave up writing. I don’t want that to happen again. Thanks for the tips to keep going through this.

    • Hi, Linda. Glad it helped, and thank you for pinning and sharing. I appreciate both. Our struggles, triumphs, and trials make for good pieces. Thought about submitting one to us? I know our readers would enjoy that.

  2. I thoroughly enjoyed your article. I myself get burned out writing and with my hectic schedule it sometimes doesn’t take much. For me, I walk away from the computer and take a walk. I live in the mountains and have a creek running along the back of the property so I have the privilege of beautiful scenery to break up my desires to do other things rather than finish those overdue books I am writing. Sometimes, though, that isn’t enough. I can get exhausted from all the driving I do, and the rescue I run, along with the free public speaking for victims of domestic violence and helping victims overcome their fears. I am on call 24/7 it seems lol either helping a person or an animal. However, I did just complete a nice weekend getaway and now am feeling refreshed so I have gone back to the keyboard. I dropped by here as a reward for writing four chapters. (You see, if I reward myself with something I like, it’s easier to complete my writing tasks at hand). Plus a little piece of chocolate helps lol. Thank you for such a wonderful article.

    • Hi, Theresa. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. I feel honored to be included in the same category as chocolate!

      You do sound busy and yet, you’ve reinforced the whole idea of the post with how you can sometimes get away from the burnout with a walk, or giving yourself a reward when you have completed the writing or the task.

      On another note, thank you for your work with rescues. My dog, who passed last December, was a rescue. I also know how you can’t keep “set hours” when you work with certain populations, and that makes it doubly hard to allocate specific time for writing.

      I’m impressed with four chapters though, and think you deserve another piece of candy.

  3. Hi, John. What a thoughtful comment. I share the “guilty even when we have permission” syndrome. No, you won’t find that diagnosis, either, but it’s real. Maybe between the two of us, we can create a support group? Only partially kidding. I think we all have too much to do and too much information to process on any given day, so I truly appreciate you taking the time to write such a personal comment, John.

    Your posts have touched me and I hope you do find some time to write another one. Don’t take that as a demand; she smiles. Just a fan looking forward to another.

  4. Hi, Chuck. What a wonderful lesson – for us all. We are both fortunate to have people in our lives who don’t give up on us! And those superfluous tasks can really bog us down and we lose sight of the outdated responsibilities.

    I appreciate you taking your time to give us all food for thought, Chuck.

  5. Marilyn, I LOVE this post, and I think it applies to more than just writing…like all of life! I find that many times I am so burned out I don’t even recognize it! Self care is fueled by self awareness and for me that is the first step to getting from burn out back to living life. Great post!

    • Hi, Michelle. You’re right. It does apply to all aspects of our lives. I think many people don’t realize the importance of self care. For some it seems selfish, for others, they don’t think they deserve breathing room or time to themselves. However, if we don’t take care of ourselves, we’re eventually going to be useless to others.

      Thanks for the reminder about self awareness and self care!

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